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Unrealistic Marriage Expectations

When we first get married, we have a certain set of expectations that come with us into the union. The bride has her set, the husband has his set, and the in-laws have theirs as well. Some of these expectations will be met, and many of them won’t. Let’s discuss some of these expectations. 1. The Myth: Many of us believe that temple marriage is the golden key to unlock all our marriage treasures and that nothing can befall us once we’ve been sealed. The Truth: the temple gives us the ability to be together forever, if we live righteously … Continue reading →

Mending Marriage Miscommunications

Yesterday was pretty typical in the life of a young Mormon mommy. I spent all my time breaking up fights, trying not to cry as mess after mess was cleaned up (by me) and recreated (by the children). By the time my husband got home, I was ready for a time-out (for me). I went into the bedroom and treated myself to a book. A couple of hours later, my husband came in. He’d put the children to bed, the house was quiet, and I felt much refreshed. I thanked him for the wonderful reprieve, then stood up to grab … Continue reading →

Your Feelings Influence Your Fights

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In the last article I discussed how much of the fighting that takes place between two mates occurs due to control issues. In many cases, the situation that the couples are discussing or arguing over is only the lead to an issue over who can control who. In other cases, couples are not fighting over control but over feelings. Through communication, we constantly give signals of how we feel. Some of those signals are verbal and some are nonverbal. We communicate through our posture, facial expressions, eye contact, facial expressions, touch, and words. Through these signals we can give off … Continue reading →

Television Wasn’t Very Supportive of Marriage This Season

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It’s June, which means the standard television season is over and done with. There are a few shows to look forward over the summer, but for the most part the 2006-07 television season is over and done with. Marriage wasn’t too popular or well done during this year’s television season. From reality television’s The Real Wedding Crashers to Marriage 911 to the fictional Rules of Engagement, Desperate Housewives and ’Til Death — marriage didn’t come off as a healthy or happy institution this year. There’s a reason for that – as many marketing promoters will tell you – happy marriages … Continue reading →

Marriage Fights: Communication

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Over the last two weeks, I’ve done a series of articles based on the top four causes of marriage fights and divorce. All four of these disagreements stem from one essential problem in a relationship: lack of communication. When you and your spouse communicate and work together, the relationship runs smoother. But when you choose to work separately, you pull in different directions instead of as a team, and the wagon breaks apart. Let’s quickly review the four causes we touched on. First, money. When the two of you sit down and decide on your financial goals, and devise a … Continue reading →

General Conference From the Past: The Enriching of Marriage

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In a General Conference talk given in October 1977, entitled “The Enriching of Marriage”, Elder James E. Faust of the Presidency of the First Quorum of the Seventy outlines a variety of methods to avoid divorce by growing and strengthening our marriages. Elder Faust first tells the story of a woman who received a justified divorce, by his reckoning. Several years later, the woman told him that, had she known then what she knew ‘now’, she would have remained in the marriage. He goes on to cite the statistic that, as he gave his talk, for every 100 marriages in … Continue reading →

Marriage Fights

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For the first part of this and next week, I would like to explore the top four reasons given for divorce in America today. Why should this matter to those of us sealed in the temple, who have no intent of leaving our spouses? First, because the sad truth is that divorces in temple marriages and LDS families are on the rise. Second, because if most couples in America are fighting over the subject, the odds are good that it is a source of contention in LDS homes, as well. Marriage is a wonderful blessing, but it can be awfully … Continue reading →

Marriage The Week in Review – September 30 – October 6

Welcome to Saturday morning and I hope you had a good night’s sleep and a great weekend of activity and relaxation in front of you. October is off to a roaring start here at the Marriage Blog with articles being picked up and commented on in other blogs and more. So without further ado, let’s dive into our week in review. Saturday, September 30th Sherry discussed Duane and Beth Chapman: For Better or Worse about the Dog the Bounty Hunter and his wife and their relationship as they work together to track down and bring back criminals and bail jumpers. … Continue reading →

10 Ways to Make Your Communication More Effective

This is a checklist that every married couple should keep taped to their refrigerator or their computer or their bathroom mirror – wherever they may see it every single day. If you know someone who is going to be married, include it in a note or a card to them. I try to look at this list as often as I can – because it helps and it serves as a healthy reminder to make better choices and to be more effective when I communicate with my spouse. Don’t Be Judgmental – You need to avoid words and phrases that … Continue reading →

Marriage & Love; Love & Marriage

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Sometimes we forget that love and marriage both take work. When we are engaged to be married and planning our wedding ceremony, we think the sky is the limit. We know if we aim for the moon, even if we miss – we’ll still be among the stars. We understand, above all else, that we love each other. This is a thought that we need to remember, because that love can sustain us in the best of times and the worst of times. The following is a bit of a personal glimpse, but it was the best way I knew … Continue reading →